ANCHORS || a blog about people

Most of "my people" have or are in the process of drifting out of my life, and those who aren't just happen to live hours away from me. People are moving away and moving on and one of the worst places to be in a season of transition is in the exact same place before and after everyone else is gone. 

I read a book and there was a boy who did not have very much stability in his life. The few things in his life that did happen to be stable he called "anchors". Every time I go through a chapter in my life that's horribly unstable and all over the place, I tend to turn to people and depend on them as my "anchors". And that's always worked out really well for me, until now. The people I thought would be there to protect and hold me up when I felt like I couldn't do it anymore aren't here. Some of them are in search of something to call an anchor, some of them have moved away, and some of them just aren't as "here" as they used to be. 

It's hard to depend on an anchor that's light enough to drift, and I guess that's what I've been discovering. 

"We're all on a journey," my dad has has repeatedly told me when I complain about or criticize those around me. And that's really true. None of us have it all figured out, and none of us are strong enough to anchor down another person. So maybe that's what life is about. Finding something heavy and real and substantial enough to save us from drifting aimlessly. I think we tend to turn to various things to "save" us - food, music, TV - but having a good group of friends or a boyfriend or just having A PERSON you know will be there for as long as you need them to be there is something that each and everyone of us craves. And that's not bad. But that person is going to let you down. He'll be too busy to talk. She'll move away. They'll forget sometimes and sometimes they'll remember but your mood and joy level shouldn't depend on them, okay? 

I know y'all are expecting me to preach at you about how God is always there, but I'm not going to. Whether or not He's there (He is) you're going to have to figure things out on your own. I just want to remind you that people are bad anchors because they'll float away and eventually we'll all be drifting along, unable to rescue each other. That's why we need to  discover something weighty and solid enough (God) to have in common and to carry us through this crazy whirlwind we call life. 

Love Christie

(PS community is good as long as you have more in common than liking and depending on each other)